Reclaim Your Life

In today's fast-paced world, our minds are often bombarded with a constant stream of information, notifications, advertisements, and distractions. This can take a toll on our mental wellbeing, leading to stress, anxiety, and burnout. However, by implementing strategies to unplug and unwind, we can nurture a healthy mind and cultivate inner peace. In this blog post, we’ll explore the importance of mental wellness and provide practical strategies for fostering a healthy mind in a digital age. By prioritizing moments of relaxation and implementing mindfulness practices, you can rejuvenate your mental wellbeing and enhance overall quality of life.

Understanding the Impact of Digital Overload:

The digital age has brought incredible advancements and conveniences, but it has also created a constant barrage of stimuli that can overwhelm our minds. From incessant emails to social media notifications, our attention is often fragmented, leading to decreased productivity and increased stress lev...

In the fast-paced world we live in, where demands are high and expectations are often overwhelming, cultivating emotional resilience is essential for maintaining well-being. This post will serve as a guide to help you navigate your emotions and build the emotional strength needed to thrive in both your personal and professional life.

Understanding Emotions

Emotions are complex, multifaceted experiences that influence every aspect of our lives. They arise in response to various internal and external stimuli, shaping our thoughts, behaviors, and interactions with the world around us. To effectively navigate them and cultivate emotional resilience, it’s essential to develop a deeper understanding of their nature and function.

Emotion Journaling: Keep a journal where you can regularly write about your emotions and experiences. Set aside time each day to reflect on how you're feeling and what may have contributed to those feelings. Describe the emotions you're experiencing in detail, inc...

 The modern lifestyle often leaves little room for prioritizing physical health, so it's crucial to incorporate simple yet effective strategies into your routine.

Incorporating Physical Activity Into Daily Life

Walking Meetings: Break away from the traditional conference room setting and infuse movement into your workday by incorporating walking meetings. This will not only promote physical health, but studies have shown that walking can enhance creativity and problem-solving, making it a win-win for both your body and mind.

Family Fitness: Foster a culture of health within your family by incorporating physical activities into shared time. Weekend hikes, bike rides, or a game of catch in the backyard not only promotes bonding but also instills a love for an active lifestyle from an early age. We enjoy rock climbing with my son at a local rock-climbing gym.

Active Hobbies: Infuse joy into your fitness journey by adopting hobbies that naturally involve movement. Whether it's dancing,...

Anytime anxiety happens, anytime you are worried, anytime you're thinking about the future. Anytime you're not feeling in the present, you're concerned about something. Oftentimes, let's say for some people who are afraid of flying, they're terrified, they don't want to get on the airplane because they're so anxious what's going to happen. Here's one technique or one tool that you can do for yourself to alleviate that anxiety. Think about the destination, think about where you're going, what you're going to do there.

Think of a great restaurant or a great meal you're going to have once you arrive, or let's say you're going to a movie theater or doing something special for yourself. Instead of concentrating on the fact that you have to be on a plane you have to fly. Think about the end result. What is it? What is something that you can look forward to in the future right after the terrifying event? What is something amazing that you can concentrate on that you can think about? And thin...

How you do one thing is how you do everything.

Take a deep breath while sitting comfortably in your chair, breathe slowly for a few minutes and when you're ready, close your eyes and lower and soften your gaze. Continue to dip slowly and deeply. And I would like for you to imagine that you're standing in your kitchen or the kitchen of someone you know. Choose a kitchen that you're very familiar is this that is associated with pleasurable memories. As you see various different kitchens that just flashed through your mind. Pick one. Imagine you're standing at the doorway of this kitchen and glance around it. Knowing the walls, cabinets, countertops, the floor. Imagine the appliances that are in this kitchen, the refrigerator, the stove, oven dishwasher, look at the countertops noticing things that are placed there. There may be a window, imagine the window is open and the soft warm breeze is blowing in perhaps gently moving the curtains. There are pleasant smells in this kitchen. Perhap...

I think one of the things that I noticed a lot is obsession over past hurts. That's what keeps people stuck most of the time. So how do we get rid of it? How do we go past it?

What happens many times is we are stuck in the past. But for our brain it doesn't matter if something happened in the past, present, or future, same parts of our brain light up when we experience something. So for a brain doesn't matter whether it's happened yesterday or right now, you get to relive the same kind of emotions, the same kind of feelings as if they're happening now. So how do you release your obsession over past hurts?

Well, number one is acknowledging that it happened. Having the acceptance, acceptance is the first thing you need to look at. That's what's happening. Accept the situation, accept what has happened, and realize that you don't have to be in that state anymore. You don't have to be stuck, because the only person is that keeping you stuck right now is you. So accept the fact that neg...

It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light. -Aristotle

What are some of the things you can be doing and what are some things that are not beneficial?

Well, first of and foremost is prioritizing self care. Each day, do something that brings you joy, nurtures you, like exercise, or nutrition or meditate or cook something satisfying. It's important to not drown in your feelings. And it's important to recognize that you cannot drown your sorrows in the glass of wine, for it’s something short lived. We need to establish and practice good behaviors and routines, that are sustainable, and doing those things for yourself. Whether it's baking, cooking, singing, dancing, taking a walk, meditating, but something that will nourish your soul, and your body and your mind.

Sleep is also very important. It's restorative, it helps you cope with pain after breakup. And sometimes it can be the answer, the short answer, but it's establishing your routine, your daily habits tha...

First off, why would you want to change your beliefs? Oftentimes it takes a tragic event or circumstance for us to pay attention at our life. Stop and think for a second where is it going? If we were to analyze or observe life as series of events we may notice patterns of behavior and beliefs that have led us to where we are today. It takes recognition that however you are living your life up to this point is no longer working. It does not suit you anymore. It may look great on paper, great career, complete family, financial stability...but deep inside something does not feel right. The things you thought you wanted you now have, yet there is something missing.

 Once you acknowledge what has happened, now you can change. Here are three things you can do to change your beliefs. 

1) Surround yourself with people who see the best in you

Do you allow toxic people in your life? Do you allow toxic relationships to take a toll on you? Sometimes, maybe you have a partner or a spouse and you...

“Because [marriage is] a relationship between two people and there's always two sides of the story and you come from different backgrounds, yes, we have to make compromises but sometimes there are some compromises we cannot make because they go against our beliefs. And if we diminish that, if we stay quiet, then a year later we realize we're not gonna recognize who we are anymore.” - Irina Shehovsov

Beliefs is where it all begins. What are the beliefs that we tell ourselves? What are the stories?

Belief is a state of mind, or a habit in which we trust or confidence we place in something personal. Where do they come from?  Between ages zero and seven, we have them installed, they are given by our caregivers, educators, and society, by people in our life, who surround us. We take everything as is because we don't have any critical faculty to decide whether something is good or bad. And the next seven years of our life between 7 and 14 we get to live out all those beliefs that we have l...

I think the first step is to understand that forgiveness does not exonerate the perpetrator. Forgiveness liberates the victim. It’s a gift you give yourself. – T.D. Jakes

When it comes to recovering after breakup or divorce, one of the important things one must do is practice forgiveness. It’s necessary to understand that you are not doing this for another person, you are actually doing yourself a favor and giving yourself a gift of freedom and pursuit of happiness. It is not about getting the other person off the hook however they wronged you or however they made you feel it is all actually about you.

And of course, it can be difficult to forgive, especially if you've been married for a long time or have been in a long-term relationship. And you dedicated your life, your attention, your love, all your good qualities to the other person. And you may have put them on a pedestal and have forgotten about yourself. Forgiving them may be very hard and it will take some time. But if you wa...